People's Opinion's, Do They Really Matter?Do people's opinion really matter? No I don't think it does matter what other ppl think. Seriously if what you feel is right to do who is to say if that is right for you? Not a single person in this world other then you can say whether this is destructive or not.
Who are those ppl who feel the need to stick their nose into anything and everything you are doing and have to give their two cents? I believe they are selfish ppl who only want what is not gonna harm them in some ridiculous way.
For example: My friend's boyfriend that she has never met and has talked to online now for over a year has proposed to her. Now personally knowing this person I believe she would not do anything without thinking it through thoroughly. I know her intentions for doing this and when she asked her "friends" their reaction was less then nice.
When she told me my first thought was...and what's the problem? LOL then she told me that her "friends" cussed her out for wanting to get married to this gentleman that she felt was so right for her. Well she was told all kinds of horrible things and felt very invalidated for this. I don't blame her really. I mean WHO THE HELL ARE YOU FOR TELLING HER SHE'S BEING DESTRUCTIVE etc. Your nobody that's who.
I reassured her that if she had no doubt in her mind about this then there is no one in this world that can tell her what to do or what not to do only herself can make that decision.
Needless to say I think those of you who think giving your two cents about anything and everything just to make yourself feel better in this small world or are afraid that you might lose this person, that she will be too busy with her HAPPY new life to talk to you I say: SUCK IT UP PRINCESS AND GET OVER IT!
If you only have your own best interest in mind when telling a person your opinion and doing so in the wrong way then you don't deserve to say anything. Keep your mouth shut and stand beside your friend no matter what she decides even if in the end it doesn't work out cause that's what friends do.
5 comments:
kat i agree with you 100 %...anyone that cant be supportive needs to fuck off in my opinion...my life is too frazzled and hectic for people denigrationg me for mistakes i might or might NOT have made.If your friend is free and over the age of 18 then she can damn well do wtfever she wants and be damned the people that cant be nice about it and supportive of her decisions....in this situation i say sticking to your guns is the best bet and the rest will follow along..Rina
I don't think you should post stuff like this anymore!! hahaha just joking.
I actually think you made some very valid points in this one.
So many times people interfere when they should sit back and worry about their own lives.
To your friend. Congrats to you and I wish you only the best life has to offer. Remember to always say I love you everyday even if you're angry. You never know if it's the last time you'll see that person. Always Communicate! It's the key to a marriage or the destructive link that's lacking. And most importantly DON"T LOSE YOU! Marriage is a partnership not a one man show. Keep your friends and your hobbys, those are important to living a balanced life.
Again Nice job!! ~april
Thank you. I had to write this post as this is very close to my heart as I have been where my friend is so I understand.
I just wanna say a great big old *THANK YOU!!!* to all of yall. Kat...girl, I knew you would understand because youve been there and done that. You know where I am and because of that I value your advice above anyone elses in this matter. You too Rina. I never asked advice when I posted about my relationship though. I simply wrote an update on the events going on, and mentioned that he had done the unthinkable, and brought the m word into the mix. My response was...(direct quote from said posting) "Its a huge decision and I dont want to rush into it. So Im going to take my time and make sure Im doing whats right, and whats best for all of us. And then....Ill probably say yes."
See? Im not being spontaneous, Im not being irresponsible. I took the time to make sure it felt right, not just for me, but for my children as well. We arent running out tomorrow and getting married... thats a long time away. I am, however, making that commitment to the man I love. The fact that I am not someone you would expect it from should speak volumes about how I feel about this man, and how strong our relationship is. I love him enough to give myself to him, to raise my children with him, to grow old with him. And that should be enough reason for anyone to say...I wish you the best of luck. Being a friend doesnt mean you have to agree, but you do have to be supportive. If its a mistake, its my mistake to make. And as someone pointed out, nothing is permanent anymore. Engagements can be broken, divorces happen all the time. Just smile, nod, and be happy for me, that I have found someone that I love so much, that loves me, so much that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. You can tell me you have questions, you can doubt my decision, but its completely unfair to tell me that Im "bringing destruction upon my house" by getting engaged.
So, thank you all for your kind and supportive words. It has, and does mean a lot to me. *hugs*
I think my comment was longer than the blog itself was :-p
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